Pain in life is unavoidable, however, the pain we create trying to avoid pain is avoidable.

When stress, anxiety, or frustration arises, individuals may find themselves responding in ways they don't fully understand. These coping strategies might not be direct responses to personal experiences but instead inherited from the coping mechanisms of their ancestors.

Its mental health…. but not as we know it

A brief introduction….

The window of tolerance is a helpful way to make sense of what we are experiencing when we're are effected by trauma, stress and the subsequent emotional dysregulation.

Those who are constantly seeking to revolutionise beliefs go in in contrast to roads marked by Family traditions.

"3 children in every classroom will suffer from a diagnosable mental illness", why do they not say that 3 children in every classroom may be living with loss, family breakdown, parental mental health difficulties (often caused by parent’s childhood trauma), bullying, poverty, abuse, redundancy or anything which may cause distress within a family? After all, there can be recovery in all these issues.

This brick wall can be a metaphor for our life.

Let’s pretend the book placed at the bottom of this wall represents adversity, trauma, and small, and yet significant life challenges.

If we do not acknowledge and process it, we will have no choice but to adapt around it.

In my many years of working with people, I have observed something quite interesting in relation to being anxious. I have learnt that an individual will carry the symptoms of anxiety, as listed above, but will not often understand the root cause of their suffering is often located within their relationships.